Personal development includes the coming of age, growing up and expanding our self-consciousness. It is a two-way path – one part of our personal developed is directed towards achieving our life goal in the external world, while the other is focused on deepening of our self- consciousness, on our internal goal and our own insides, including the awareness of our intentions, motivations and emotions, as well as the reasons for which they are exactly the way they are in our case.
Personal development also includes the development of our relationship with ourselves, the development of our interpersonal relationships, that is, the level of contacts and relationships with people, as well as the relationship towards nature and the entire planet. Therefore, the goal of our training is the integrative development of an individual, in his/her relationships to themselves, to others and to the world around them. However, the focus is largely directed towards the psychological and spiritual development. This means that personal development is integrative, i.e. it helps a person to become aware of all of the important parts of his/her personality and to learn to harmonise them in order to prevent the parts of their subpersonality from working against one another. From the psychological point of view, every human being consists of different parts, i.e. subpersonalities (subconscious parts of our ego). We are often unaware of the ways in which these parts influence our conscious reactions. Being unaware of these subpersonalities and their impact is what brings us into conflict with the environment or with ourselves, and this is what makes us unhappy. When the subpersonalities are harmonised, we are able to control our reactions, to choose them and to consciously incorporate them in the totality of what we are and what we live. In this way we are able to choose healthier behavioural patterns in relation to ourselves and other people, and that leads to the feeling of inner and outer harmony. Consequently, this creates in us the feeling of relief and happiness.
Incorporating different parts of ourselves thus refers to integration within our personality and development of awareness of our own harmonious choice.
The integrative development includes the three phases of personality maturation – prepersonal, personal and transpersonal. The first, prepersonal phase, relates to our development until the age of three or four. The second, personal phase, lasts the whole life. The third, transpersonal phase, is a result of the capability of our ego – our own feeling of everything we believe we are – to perceive itself and its surrounding world in a defenceless way. This means that we are able to open ourselves outside of our ego-defence. In the certain phase of maturation that we might call the achievement of the integral self-consciousness, such a state becomes the permanent state of consciousness of the ego. In other words, our ego becomes aware of its ability not to defend itself.
Transpersonal level of development is not related to any specific age, and the most of us are able to access it once we reach adulthood. The first experience of this level could be acquired in any period of human life.
Therefore, the integrative personal development also refers to the development and completion of each of the aforementioned phases, regardless of whether this involves gaining positive experiences that were missing in the certain stages of the prepersonal phase, creating the new parts in the personal phase or expanding of our capacity in the transpersonal phase. At the same time, when we consciously look at ourselves from a perspective of an adult person, these three phases are interdependent and simultaneously developed while on the path of personal development.
Within these three phases on the path of the integrative personal development, a person also develops a healthy affection for him/herself and others. This affection includes their own imperfections, vulnerability and development of the capacity to handle unpleasant emotions. At the same time, it also includes the feeling of ones own power and creativity.
This is exactly the way – expanding our awareness on our own personal capacity for everything that life might bring – that enables us to truly reach the feeling of inner fulfilment, thus also achieving what we long for.
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